Life Changing Decisions

We have life changing decisions to make, three weeks after the accident.

The physical impact on John is huge. From an active life, traveling with our horse- drawn caravan, John steps into a hospital bed and occasional in a wheel chair.

Dreamspot

The day of the accident, we left our spot in the morning, a serene place near the river Labe. We look forward to our next country: East-Germany, only two travel days ahead. Aysha and Isabella are more in shape than ever. We too!

After 18 months together in a 7m 2 caravan, we totally adjust to our travel life. The first trip we could have arguments about the way things where going, this journey we are very relaxed. No quarrels, no irritations, fully in love with each other and our freedom life style.

Indescribable

Four hours later, everything is changed. The influence on our state of mind is indescribable. We step from an independence manner of life to a completely dependent lifestyle.

Our family is great. We temporary stay with John’s mother, receiving help from siblings and other family members. Nevertheless, we have to adjust to their life and especially now John is in the hospital I feel lonely and disorientated. We have little privacy; it’s if everybody is listening when we talk.

My mood as well John’s is going up and down. Happy that we both are alive, that John’s injuries could be worse, sad because we have lost so much.

Positive

It’s not the lost possessions I am talking. Not either the lost of our caravan. It’s pure the lost of our lifestyle we mourn for.

When I visit John, I am grumbling and very curt to him. We both try to keep it nice but it’s difficult to stay positive. Like in early days (when we talked for hours when we both had to travel for work), I start calling him on his phone. This gives us a bit more privacy, easier to talk and cry, grumble and make it up again. In no time, we are back on speaking terms and also the visits to the hospital are fun.

John finally is aloud to sit in a wheelchair, giving us the opportunity to get out of the hospital. As a surprise, I take Vienna with me. The reunion is heartwarming, when Vienna jumps with one big leap on his lap.

Life Changing Decisions

The last few weeks we also worked hard on our future. There are decisions to take.

Just a few weeks before the accident we already decided to arrange a home again when we are back. It’s one of the lessons we learned. We want a place of your own, all our belongings chattered around numerous places now, no place to receive our children. Such place is earlier necessary than we thought and we go for it. The last eleven years we kept a housing association enrolment. Now we are able to use that one. Within one week, we have a home again with curtains, drapes and carpet. At June 30, the key transfer will be there.

Future Plan

A relieve to have a home again. Nevertheless, we are aware about the impact of every decision. Every step is opening one door or closes a door to future plans.

Whatever happens, we both are determined to have our freedom lifestyle back. How and when, we don’t know but it will happen!

The whole accident and aftermath takes life changing decisions. We are realistic enough to see the positive sides of it but the negative affect are a bitter pill to swallow.

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Aid and Assistance

We receive hug amounts of emails with encouragement after the accident. We can’t tell you how much it helps reading this emails.

Returning email question is a donation button on our website.

Aim of telling you about the accident was, and is, not to collect money but to inform everybody reading our blog.

However, we admit that we are facing a big financial challenge bringing back the horses and organizing our life.

Thanks!

Thea and John Verhoeckx